Tips to take care of bedridden family member at home

Dear friends, most of us are going to step into our forty's in a couple of years. And so are our parents and grand parents aging gracefully. There are chances that they be getting bedridden due to age factor. A bedridden patient's physical mobility gets restricted affecting them both physically and mentally.

Let us concentrate on certain tips to manage bedridden patients at home.

1. First and foremost bedridden patient needs a fair amount of dignity. The dignity gets reflected in each and every service we do for them. Be it in feeding them food and medicines, regular checkup of vitals i.e. blood sugar level, blood pressure level, daily bathing, changing diapers and keeping the bed neat and clean.

2. Spend some quality time with them. Just like a new born baby enters this world with lots of dreams to be fulfilled into reality, so does an aged bedridden person prepare themselves to leave this world with quality memories and it is the duty of the family to help them achieve the same.

3. Keep them involved in the current affairs of the family. They might not be of any immediate contributors to the happenings of the family but still keeping them in loop shall make them feel wanted and valued.

4. More than women, a male bedridden member needs more care and attention as they get easily offended to slightest mishandling since they had spent most of their life respected and cared by their female counterparts.

5. You may appoint third party personalized care-taker for your bedridden family  member, but such arrangements shall not replace the personalized attention that you provide for your bedridden family member.

Diwali special

Today is something unique where it is not only Deepavali but also birth anniversary of Shri Sardar vallabhai patel and death anniversary of Shrimati Indira Gandhi. 

Since it is Shri Sardar Vallabhai patel's anniversary, this day is celebrated as National Unity day. So can we list who are united in today's scenario. The list is as below:

1. Most united section in this digital era are the trolls. Trolls exhibit remorseless unity who get emboldened to target and tarnish the defenseless in digital space to such an extent they can manipulate a truth into lie and lie into truth at ease. The funny thing is that not one knows the face and background of the fellow troll but they share such a unity.

2.The next section are cartels. It may be political cartel, business cartel, medical cartel, educational cartel, religious cartel, moral policing cartel. A cartel of all these cartels. They are so united and motivated that even twin brothers wouldn't share such unity and bonding.

3. The third section is of course the casteist. They are so motivated that if a person of his caste is reprimanded in Kashmir its repercussion can be heard in Kanyakumari. Such is their strong network.

Having seen such unity in my Mahan Bharat, but still no one is able to stop rapes in daylight, corruption in governance and last but not least communal violence.

There must be really something wrong in our understanding of the term UNITY.

Blank pages of destiny

We always see that in a polarized world it is a battle between the two extremes imposing oneself on other and there is no stopping them. In the ongoing battle two factions get involved so much that they often forget that its neither of them going to make it but it is the one forgotten by the both sides.

At one point of time we are forced to submit to the destiny and most of time we are convinced that destiny was invoked by our insincerity. If everything was destined what are we going after, fighting the destiny? We often fail to recognize that our destiny is something which won over some other destiny over a period of time. If we win we become destiny.

There is a small story wherein a child asked the God if everything is destined what was the use of child's wishing power. God replied that may in some places it is mentioned as per child's wish. So the destiny does have the blank pages expecting you to fill it up and it is the only way wherein you can win the destiny and become a destiny unto.

So next time you stop whining that it was all destined and making a fool of others who were masked about the time period wherein you had a chance to fill up those blank pages of destiny but you chose to bury your head.

Bandwidth is at the peril

Anyone can be shoulder lifted up by the masses to the positions of excellence. They can water wash the individual, paint him with exquisite colors and associate him with tonnes and tonnes of propagandist materials to make lion out of a cunning fox.

 

But what really matters is the bandwidth associated with the individual. How much ever a cunning fox is portrayed as a lion, the bandwidth of the lion is far different from bandwidth of a cunning fox.

It takes an apt occasion wherein bandwidth of the person out-pours the real inner of the individual no matter what he tries to make out of himself. A person who connives his original bandwidth will always be in contrary with a person who has a original bandwidth far superior than the former.

 

And the society in aloof with the individuals popularized with fabricated bandwidth denying the opportunity for the superior bandwidth creating an artificial scarcity of the individuals with deserving track record.

Witnessing the soul in you

 We are surrounded by many philosophers, revolutionaries, protagonists and based on the interest generated within you, you buy a suitable opinion to identify the purpose of life. The one who doesn't wish to take an active participation opts for a passive role. He acts as a witness. He who never argues, he never profess, he never suggests.

 

Even the most active vibe at one point of time is forced to freeze and best thing he is allowed to do is just witness the unfolding. But is it the safest option to remain a witness? Absolutely it is not devoid of obstruction. For your right to witness is subjected to manipulation, result is that you may expect a pleasant occasion but out of syllabus shock greets you.

You may be wondering why is that the basic right to witness being manipulated, as the world which is highly corrupted wants you to witness the evil in you and there is an entire hierarchy that is put in force to appropriate the God in you.

 

 

Witnessing the God in you is the greatest gift God can deliver it to you. As and when that population which has witnessed the evil in them bulge so it becomes difficult for the individuals to witness the God in them. But with right intentions and unparalleled belief nothing is impossible.

Empowerment is the real favour you do

 We all see people bragging about improving women conditions and chalking out new schemes in that direction. We may provide highest level of service to them but nothing would match that level of empowering them. Empowerment is about treating them as equals amidst unequal.

 

In a family, it is the father who is seen as the empowering agent who delegates rights and responsibilities amongst the family members. And in the society it is the citizens group who empower a leadership to decide the direction in which the society has to move forward.

This feel of empowerment is quite subtle in nature, as the tables can turn upside down once a disguised wrong character assumes the helm of affairs questioning the roots of empowerment and trying to manipulate the devolution of powers for the deceptive causes.

 

Hence it becomes necessary to take into account each  and every member of the setup who are immune to manipulative forces and act as restoration points once they identify the Trojans trying to over power through dismissive means.

 

Ugly, uglier, ugliest

Distinction between beautifulness and being ugly is contextual. An individual can praise your beauty but when it is out of context it turns out to be a sarcastic mention. Same holds good for an outward degrading comment. It is all about being in right context.

 

We can see a group of esteemed people praising a person for his bravery and crowning him as their messiah. But in reality they expect him to do the ugly job for them in return for all the praise and honor. And a smart person who enjoys this coronation just posts the ugly job to the underdogs using the same technique used against him by the esteemed i.e. he anoints the underdogs as protectors of the supremacy.

This is a vicious ecosystem of ugliness and is most accepted form of ridiculousness which everyone in the loop are aware of. But vulnerable are the ones who are innocents who donot know they are indeed hired for doing the ugly job of the drag racers. They may or may not realize the trap. Even after they realize, it will always be too late.

 

Though a well informed person may not be visibly affected by this below the table understanding, but these kind of duplicity will be emboldening the individuals who betrays accountability eventually create an ecosystem favoring formation of more duplicates.