The cancer of upmanship is present in all spheres of life. It may be in a work place, between the sportsman, between the politicians and also between the governments. It does exists in family between family members especially between aging father or father-in-law and latestly groomed son or son-in-law.
Well, between family members may look like a small issue but it as dangerous as between governments. Between the governments will result in a full fledged war but between family members can result in disintegration of families. The loser is ultimately unity and co-operation values that is essential for the development in all spheres.
Though environment may support you to gain that upmanship at ease, but the exact effect of this upmanship is that you shall move away from a huddle which gives you a lonely feel. You are continuously pushed into thinking the ways by which you will loose this upmanship and hence you are forced to doubt the guidelines of the your loved ones who can see you and yourself beyond the cover of upmanship with which you have covered your self.
It is indeed expected to have a fatherly figure to guide us and steer us in a direction of worthiness but a well learnt person will give up upmanship at that moment and stop running behind it.
