Cost of protection... war games... :(

A good happy family with its own culture, goals and ideas keeps itself running with parents being present, grand parents providing the past gyaan and children acting as a future path. Its a complete connectivity between past, present and future.

The aim of every family is to flourish in this competitive world. Some follow ethics and feel that ethics does matter to flourish happily and some just don't care about the ethics as they are happy to showoff the world the material pride they had earned by hook or crook. If things were this much simple there would be no problem but when the greed of non-ethics exceeds the permissible limit the ethical is forced into protectionist mode. Safeguard his/her family from the brutality of the non-ethics. They are forced to spend on this protection and cut on the expense of good requirements of the family. It may be a good education, purchase a new farm house and so on. Ethical is forced.

Just replace the family with country and situation is the same. India is buying arms, lots and lots of arms. Advance jets, missile system and so on to safeguard its boundaries from non-ethical neighbours. India is forced to buy lots and lots of arms.

But should India be happy about it? Not at all because it still has 39% of its kids starving for food according to the latest statistics. It needs lots and lots of money to alleviate the people from below poverty level so that each and every citizen can be guaranteed three meals of the day and a decent shelter and clothing to survive with dignity. Yet India is forced to spend lots and lots of money on arms.

But there is no good big brother who can impose a world order with a vision of seeing human beings lead a dignified life. Instead one is ready to attack the other, upon seeing a weakness and use the same for their filthy profit.

Profit is a word which has diverse meaning and it means different to different kind of people. For some profit is a means of continuing a business on a positive note and see it as an encouragement and for some profit is way of protecting their future and establishing their supremacy over other for decades. Supremacy in terms of insulting and ill treating subjects.

Instead of running the world based on profit and loss pattern, I wish the world leaders should work on a win-win kind of deal where one's profit doesn't become a loss for the other. But a dignified lifestyle is guaranteed to each and every individual on this earth. 

We n I...........!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is a recall about our family system...........though boring to read on a Sunday holiday when we are supposed to check out about the latest cinema running in near by malls or events to be attended in the evening...

Time changes everything..or situations ...we have excuses for changing...i.e to be in tune with the masses....I wonder how come this culture creep into our bloods.. In Western countries no one person likes to follow others.. they wish to be unique..self centered and never worry when a person criticizes his/her way.......

So the master mind reason behind our follow the neighbor strategy is our family system practiced by us for decades.Those days each mother would comfortably give birth to 10 kids...And those 10 kids would grow up together with a sense of sharing the common facilities provided by their parents...They may fight but after sometime they have to get together either for food or some other occasions of celebrations..Out of ten members there is a chance of two or three fighting at a time and other seven would try to pacify the angry kids, to be simple they can never stay apart for a long time. And this became the order of their life, they began to give importance to leading  their lives together by sacrificing their individual interests than staying apart to follow their own passion.

Think of today's family system, one kid's clothes are not touched by other sibling,one cannot try to question other's personal life. Communication barrier are created between the kids and even parents support the same in the name of privacy. Privacy has become a huge hurdle for creation of strong bonded relationships. One hesitates to question others way of life as they fear of backlash, one doesn't like to share his/her dreams with others fearing of being teased.

But when I observe my parents and their sisters, they share their ideas with ease. No fear of backlash, tease etc. They believe in sharing and understand the value of that share.

Sharing money/clothes/items is not great, but feeling comfortable about sharing your thoughts is a gift and our old family system was successful in attaining that goal.

So next time you see a friend not speaking to someone, try to find out the reason and restore the relationships, even though it may require you to enter into their so called personal life. It is the people who are required at the end of the day to share our happiness or grief and no amount of money can replace those understanding people.

A typical big family of mine... sorry for keeping it small (privacy matters)..Copy rights @ my sister. So when you have people, you need to fight, need to share, need to pacify, need to hang around. With these needs fulfilled you will experience SATISFACTION IN LIFE....!!!!!!! Happy Weekend..!!!!